I love the days that my kids get along for the entire day. No one is making faces across the dinner table, no one is talking back, no one is causing the other to cry because they got called “big head”, and no one is annoying the other by spelling E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G out. Days like these go by so smoothly, not just for Mommy, but for everyone. It’s days like this that I can see the big picture, and know that I must be doing something right.
Yes, I have plenty of days (when the kids are not getting along) where I question everything I do as a Mom…from the Double Headed Hat to the occasional Ramen Noodles for dinner. I get easily worn out, and when I’m not giving 100%, my kids follow suit as well. It’s on these days that I feel as though I am constantly saying, “Tell your sister you’re sorry,” “Go tell your brother you didn’t mean that,” and my favorite around this time of year, “Guess who’s watching you…he sees you when you’re sleeping…” and then I make them give each other a hug. Whether they want to or not.
It’s so much easier for kids to face each other, say I’m sorry, give a hug and then continue their everyday life of playing together. But as adults, the words seem to come much, much harder and we tend to become a little stubborn…and sometimes bitter. And for me, when I have been wronged by someone, I have to remind myself that my kids are watching and learning. They see how I react to everything…so it’s up to me to teach them.
Forgiveness: One word alone can hold so much power and meaning. For some, it might mean that they are waiting for someone to forgive them for the wrongs they have done…and for others it might mean that they are the ones who need to search their hearts for the forgiveness. At some point in our lives we have all been on either side of this word. Either way, it tends to make you feel like you’re being held captive.
Right now, I feel as if I have been the one that has been trying to do the forgiving, and I feel as though I’m there. I have forgiven, and I feel like such a weight has been lifted. Yes, I still allow myself to get upset, or cry and all of the stuff that comes along with this process, just like my kids do…but it’s OK, because I know that I am not going to allow my heart to harden. My kids have been a witness to this, and it’s amazing to see them grow, love, and show grace knowing that we all make mistakes.
So, I would like to just encourage you all, especially with the Holidays surrounding us…search your heart. Whether it’s forgiving the person who called you “big head”, the person who cut you off on the way to Wal-Mart, or the person who broke your heart; search yours…and try to forgive, before your heart hardens and becomes bitter. It just might be what you need to make your season bright.